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What Valentine's Day gifts do you want most?
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What day makes people more anxious than any other day of the year?
If you answered April 15, you're way off.
Even the IRS' strangle hold on your wallet is no match for the grip Cupid has on lovers who want to please and delight their significant others.
If the holiday has you sweating, you're not alone. Many surveys show lovers can be out touch with what the loves of their lives really want for Valentine's Day.
And the consequences of a bad Valentine's Day gift aren't pretty. According to one survey, as many as six million people have broken up with someone on Valentine's Day.
A survey conducted by Bill Me Later Inc. and Ipsos Insight reveals that men really are from Mars when it comes to knowing what their sweethearts want for Valentine's Day.
More than 90 percent of the men polled said they would be giving a hug as part of their gift. Only 13 percent of the female respondents, however, said they wanted a hug. Twenty-two percent of men who intend to give gifts said they would give lingerie, but only 2 percent of the women surveyed want lingerie.
Flowers, the most coveted gift on the female list of desirable Valentine's Day gifts, ranked second on the male gift-giving list. However, jewelry, which was the women's second pick for most desired gift, only rated fifth on the men's list.
Does all of this discord between men and women's visions of the perfect Valentine's Day cause any relationship damage?
It certainly does.
The difference in gender perception is probably a more significant problem than people imagine, according to Carolyn Kaufman, a clinical psychologist and an assistant professor at Columbus State Community College in Ohio.
The commercial expectations for Valentine's Day are focused on women's ideals of love, and not men's.
"That means men are forced to do things that don't say love to them," she said. "In fact, for men, (these gifts) may just (be) cheesy."
(Agencies) |
人們?cè)谝荒曛械哪囊惶熳顭溃?/font>
就連國(guó)稅局給人們帶來(lái)的納稅之憂也比不上愛(ài)神“丘比特”給那些想取悅對(duì)方的情侶們帶來(lái)的煩惱。
為情人節(jié)傷透腦筋的并不只是你一個(gè)人。很多調(diào)查顯示，情侶們?cè)谇槿斯?jié)這天常常送錯(cuò)禮物。
而送錯(cuò)禮物的后果往往很嚴(yán)重。據(jù)一項(xiàng)調(diào)查顯示，多達(dá)600萬(wàn)人在情人節(jié)這天分手。
Bill Me Later集團(tuán)和“益普索觀察”機(jī)構(gòu)聯(lián)合開(kāi)展的一項(xiàng)調(diào)查表明，在情人節(jié)送禮物方面，男人可真是從火星上來(lái)的（此處指不了解女人心思；源于一本暢銷書名《男人來(lái)自火星，女人來(lái)自金星》）。
超過(guò)90%的受訪男性稱他們將送給愛(ài)人一個(gè)擁抱作為禮物的一部分。而僅有13%的女性受訪者表示她們想得到一個(gè)擁抱。在打算送禮物的男性中，22%的人表示將送內(nèi)衣，而僅有2%的女性渴望得到這個(gè)禮物。
女性最渴望得到的情人節(jié)禮物“鮮花”在男性最想送的禮物榜上排名第二。然而，女性的第二選擇“珠寶首飾”在男性的送禮榜上僅名列第五。
男性和女性在完美情人節(jié)禮物上觀點(diǎn)的不一致會(huì)危及兩人的感情嗎？
答案當(dāng)然是肯定的。
臨床心理學(xué)家、俄亥俄州哥倫比亞州立社區(qū)學(xué)院的副教授卡羅琳?考夫曼說(shuō)，男女在情人節(jié)禮物認(rèn)識(shí)上的差別可能是一個(gè)比人們想象的嚴(yán)重得多的問(wèn)題。
而情人節(jié)的“商業(yè)期望”也更側(cè)重于女性的喜好，而不是男性。
她說(shuō)：“這意味著男性不得不去做并不能代表自己愛(ài)的心聲的事。而事實(shí)上，男性可能根本看不上這些禮物?！?/font>
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